
Wow, I have a reader whom I don't know? Hi, Anonymous commenter!
Numbers kind of remind me of tests, and the semester is over, so I'll try to reply in the spirit of sincere dialogue, although I do prefer addressing someone by a name. I"m long-winded, so if you actually return to read this, here goes. I moved your questions about m
y previous post out of the comments, because I found myself writing such long answers.
1. How do you know that the parents opposing this are a "minority?"
2. Which other political action committees besides HRC do you think we should allow to pilot curricula in our public schools?
3. Do you recognize that the idea of legalizing same-sex marriage is a controversial political issue?
4. Who is a child's primary educator, the parent(s) or the school?
5. Have you read the "Welcoming Schools" curriculum?
6. Can you accept that people who oppose this curriculum are not by definition bigoted or homophobic?
Re: HRC, politics and what goes on in our schools? short answer, what isn't political about public school as an institution? Public school is mandatory because the state wants to produce citizens who will support the status quo. This has its pluses and its minuses, depending on how invested one is in that status quo. In my ideal world, our schools would be a lot different: there would be free full-day preschool starting at age 3, as there is in many European countries. Teacher-child ratios would be more reasonable; there would be at least an hour of PE a day; music and art would be as important as any other subject; all children would have daily instruction in a second language from first grade on; the children would have more than a pitiful 20 minutes to eat lunch, and that lunch would be healthy, prepared on site, and nothing with high-fructose corn syrup would be allowed on school grounds. NCLB would be abolished...you get the picture. We would have an anti-bias and gender-fair curriculum and teach that people should be valued above profits (heresy!). Alas, I am not queen of the world. I'm happy that the public schools in Minneapolis are as good as they are, given how they are subjected to continual funding shuffles, staffing uncertainty, and the mandate to provide for special needs students without adequate funding. Am I concerned about the agenda of the Human Rights Campaign? Well, they screwed up on ENDA, but that's another conversation.
Re: 4: Primary educator? Short answer: their peers. Ideally, parents do their best to teach their kids how to be good people. We may also teach them a bunch of other stuff: please and thank you are big in my house. Kids are in school 8 hours a day, and during that time the schools are in charge of their education on a series of subjects, in accordance with federal, state, and local mandates (standards, testing). But guess what? schools teach our kids social norms all the time: stand in line, raise your hand, ask permission to go to the bathroom, don't run in the halls, don't have jello spitting contests in the cafeteria, don't make snotty remarks to the teacher, take turns, be nice, don't hit. We expect the school to ensure their physical safety, and by necessity the schools also have a huge role in shaping their emotional and moral life, whether we like that or not. And kids learn a lot from each other, sometimes more than we recognize. Peer influence is huge, huge.
re: 5. Did I read the HRC "Welcoming Schools" curriculum? That's a somewhat insulting question, but yes, I did, quite carefully. I am an educator, so I understand the importance of homework and research. That is why I recognize that Kersten's article misrepresented it, and the discussions I have seen make claims about it that are often simply untrue: it does not mandate "sex education" nor will it "do away with gender" as I have seen at least one person assert.
As an educator, I also know that when a school adopts a curriculum, they make use of a set of resources, which they adapt to fit their needs. There is no state organization that will require a test, like the math and reading tests my child just took, to see if they "got it right." It is quite likely that the schools (and primarily the teachers) will decide which elements fit best with their community, their style and their already existing anti-bullying policies. Because I have been actively involved in my school I know the real, live people who are doing their best to teach too many kids with too few resources. They want the tools to do a better job, and they thought this curriculum served an unmet need. Before a curriculum can be implemented, you need to have the teachers on board. If they decide this is not something they can use, well, hey.
re: 3. What? gay marriage is controversial? why, I hadn't noticed. Ok, seriously, her dads' marriage is legal in the European Union, and frankly, it hurts me that there are people who want to deprive them of their happiness here.

re: 1 and 6: Actually, when I read the comments in response to a couple of blog posts, I was rather grateful to see how many people who did not identify as GLBT were supportive of the Welcoming Schools curriculum or at least of the idea of the need for it. When I spoke at the school board meeting tonight, I just said that I don't want any family to have to feel afraid the way I did: afraid that the school would be unkind to my child and my family, or look away when others were unkind or cruel. Then I sat down and cried because I hate it that people are fighting to keep our children in a situation of fear. I didn't have time to narrate in tedious and dreary detail all the bullying I have endured, witnessed, or (finally, after the age of 40) fought against. Someone else spoke about teen suicide rates, depression, and the public and mental health issues that homophobic bullying causes. Several people came up very quietly and thanked me and shook my hand. The folks who didn't come but wrote to me that they supported me and were glad I was there to represent them also make me believe that we are not the minority.
That's why I think (and I am hopeful) that those who sincerely want our schools to be inclusive, respectful and safe will work to make this a reality for all of us, not just people who are like you, who want to keep the schools safe for bullies and feel all morally superior about it at the same time. Sorry to be so blunt, but that's what your questions felt like to me.
But, if you actually came back and read this, thank you; I appreciate the opportunity to write this down. I welcome a sincere engagement if you care to reply.